Teen Mom, Abstinence and Pornography
Watching Teen Mom over the past few weeks had led me to several observations regarding this show. I’ve heard some say that this show promotes promiscuity and gives teen girls the hope that they can be a “reality TV star” by getting pregnant at the age of 16. Not sure if there’s any solid research backing this up or is it most likely conjecture. A major theme that I’ve picked out is that many of these moms were indoctrinated into the school of birth control and that you need to do this because 1) You will have sex anyway and 2) It is foolproof way to stop pregnancy and STD’s.
Is the message of birth control really working?
Behavioral conditioning is an area of cognitive-behavioral therapy that involves classical/operant conditioning to train and one of the biggest fields of this is Applied Behavioral Analysis (http://iaba.com/) Having been trained in this area, I understand why birth control often fails. The reward in having sex (an orgasm) is the chemical release of oxycotin, vasopressin and endorphins are released in the brain.
Oxycotin, vasopressin and endorphins are all addictive. Two of these are in the class of opiods which is a major addictive chemical. Hence, sex addiction, etc. The difficulty with having teens (by nature impulsive) use birth control, is that in the heat of the moment, their lower brain functions override their higher brain functions and go for the addictive chemicals. Which explains why those engaged in sexual intercourse Can’t Control Themselves. Essentially, safe sex advocates give teens permission to go swimming as long as they don’t get wet. Sex is as addictive as heroin, the damage it does is greater than a condom or a pill can protect against. The ingrained nature of these biochemicals in the brain do lasting damage. They may not walk away pregnant, but often (if not always) walk away scarred and increasingly less likely to form a life long bond with the mate they choose to get married to. (Generalization of the stimulus… if anything can stimulate, then why not get anything… marriage is irrelevant)
Bible and Biochemistry
Gen 2:24 Gives the biblical formation for marriage. Man shall leave his Father and Mother and be Joined to his wife. (Leave and Cleave) Marriage is made for one on one contact. Research strongly suggests that Vasopressin is a chemical agent in the brain that causes the “cleaving” to take place. This chemical enhances our ability to form lifelong monogamous relationships with others.
Heb. 13:4: Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge. God specifically makes the marriage bed holy (set apart). Fornication and adulterers are repeatedly warned of the damage of their actions in the Bible. The chemicals mentioned above help this in a couple ways. When a monogamous partnership is formed these chemicals reinforce positively the bonds of matrimony and essentially makes the two addicted to each other. These chemicals provide short term pleasure, but also long term attachment to the other. By building a healthy theology of sex, we see that God has created sex to be a sustainer and builder of the marriage relationship, not something to be taken lightly. By being flippant with sex, we destroy the tools that God gives us to fortify the marital relationship. (not saying that sex is all you need, but it is a major ingredient that God provides marriage to have it endure).
Premarital Sex and Behavioral Therapy.
God provides us with great opportunities and tools to remain in monogamous relationships and staying faithful to one another. The danger, with premarital sex, is that it is cursed by God, and the biochemicals reinforce a behavioral term called generalization. Meaning the human body learns that these chemicals can be released by anyone at anytime. With that, faithfulness flies out the window. The more partners one has, the more one is likely to see as a sexual/chemical conquest and not a relationship, not a life partner, something that can be easily be replaced. Rather than being in love and building those God-Given bonds, they are replaced by building a biochemical feeling of ecstasy that can be fulfilled by anyone else (or oneself).
By Being Permissive about Premarital Sex, we tear at the God Given fabric of marriage. Its like sewing two fabrics together then ripping them apart at the seams, sooner or later, that fabric is so frayed that it becomes relatively impossible to sew them together and have them adhere. At best they won’t be like the fabric that has only been sewn together once.
Truth and Consequences
Youth leaders need to speak of these with our youth and their parents in both in terms of the above actions, but also in terms of consequences of the long and short term effects of living this type of lifestyle. This may be a media tool that youth workers can wisely use to point out that it’s not a pain free experience, that sacrifices start the second you get pregnant. That they don’t need to become a statistic, and they can live above the influence of our culture.
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For a secular view of what I said above, check this out
Premarital sex, pornography and masturbation take what God has ordained out of it’s ordained domain. Inside its proper domain, sex is the glue (even biochemical glue) that creates the bonds that hold marriages together.