Pornography’s effects on addict’s wives
Pornography has a devastating effect on marriages.
Wives who discover their husband’s addiction encounter several reactions such as:
- feel betrayed.
- Feel ugly.
- Feel not good enough.
- Lost trust in husband/men in general.
- Feel they have competition
- Feel pressure to be the porn star.
- Feel they have been cheated on.
Recovery
Pornography often is deep seeded and the addiction takes root in adolescence. Looking at the depth of this addiction and having the husband seek forgiveness of the wife may help reconciliation occur faster.
Considering that this is an addiction as powerful as heroin and other major drug addictions its important to recognize, while not acceptable, relapse is a probable reality considering the nature of this problem. Counseling and accountability are often required to deal with these problems.
I made a post about change and how difficult it can be here.
Accountability
With the birth of the internet, pornography as exploded and become way more accessible to everyone. Now, its available on everything with an internet connection (cell phones included). Software programs may be necessary to help discourage behavior and hold the addict accountable. Each couple needs to determine if the spouse is the best accountability partner for this to work.
Several websites exist to help with accountability:
Accountability Links
XXX Church - Accountability Software
Net Nanny – Filtering Program
Covenant Eyes – Accountability
Other Resources
COSA: (Support for those affected by someone else’s addiction)
S-Anon: (Support for those affected by someone else’s addiction)
